Why most people fear change

Blogpost Why people fear change


Many people fear change. Why? Most of them have trauma or past experiences of pain and scarcity. Or they have parents who experienced these things So there is a feeling of uncertainty in life, a fear of existence. They turned into survival mode, looking for a solution that brings them into state of being where everything is fine, this absolute one and only solution that changes their lives forever to the good. It’s the longing to free from this survival mode, always seeking, longing for, breaking through from surviving into being fully alive.
So they carry with them the belief that they never have enough, they are unsuccessful, they are not worth living and it’s a certain kind of punishment that they have to live with these circumstances.
Especially people who experienced war or even the end of a war, tend to think and act like this. So they might reach, and society also has reached a developed state of being with the intention to make everything safe so that people live safe with rules that protect them from being harmed, being abused, being poor.....
If they once reached a state of security and with this a state of ease, an ease of this existential fear, they want to keep this security and this feeling. So they start to control the circumstances in life with laws and rules to every acting that doesn’t support life.


But change is a natural phenomenon in life and nature. If we depress change during the cycles we move during our lives, we get health issues, breakdowns, we cause sudden change. Energy forces us to expand.
So unconsciously we cause this change because our natural being wants to take the next step of growing. It’s like a caterpillar that reaches the state of becoming a butterfly. And we now decide because of wanting to stay safe, to protect us from everything bad we experienced, to stay in the state of the caterpillar.


Thats why we experience health issues, burnouts, loosing our job, ending of relationships. All of these situations create a sudden extreme „stop“ in our life. It’s as if we wouldn’t have any other chance, no more choice, no free will, but to change. It takes much energy and causes stress to our whole system. It’s another kind of fight, flight situation we ourselves create unconsciously to keep on our natural path of expansion. We now have space to learn that the past were lessons to prepare us for the future expansion. We have space to reflect and after that we go on. A new door opens.


I always had the question if human beings have to suffer, have pain, crisis, chaos to personally grow. My inner being says „no“.
It’s just the resistance because of the memories of the past. It’s only the ongoing state of being in victimhood, shame, holding us back , wanting to protect ourselves to never experience these feelings again in our lives. But only because we missed the final step, which is to see these things as lessons we can learn to make peace with where we are, to learn that we can change our believes, thoughts, behavior, attitude...and we are the creators of reality.
But if we try to keep this stagnant state of only being safe, the pain grows, depression, chronic illness... because our whole being needs so much energy to resists the flow that continues pushing and calling us forward. It’s this push-pull that causes so much tension in our selves, bodies, thoughts, being. So we shut our whole system of feeling and senses down to not even feel the pain.


So if we open our senses again, reflect on the past and learn our lessons, we can grow into a responsible human being, we can reconnect to our navigation system and take pain as a sign to reflect and correct the direction in our life. If we stay in pain and don’t make the next necessary decision, we begin to suffer because of cumulative pain. If we take a small new step the pain will disappear. That’s the language of our body. It’s our honest best friend.


So if we are open hearted and aware now, we realize that this is such a moment and time in history, in our lives. We now have to take a new step in society, in the world, in and with ourselves to go with the natural expansion. It’s evolution. We cannot control it into safety. We just can move on with intelligent, wise, conscious, responsible fundmental new decisions we have to make together.


If we take UBI as a bridge, a symbol for space to learn out of our past experience, to reconnect with our new higher consciousness, with new gained wisdom, if we open our hearts and senses again, we maybe are able to find ways to learn in a joyful, fun way in the future. We may discover that we are able to feel the change coming and knowing with out knowing that we have to leave the past behind and joyfully move on.


There are many people in daily life and business, intuitives, empaths, channelers, healers who already move through life in this natural flow. We all have these qualities, these potentials. We just have to reconnect to these depressed parts in our selves and reintegrate them. But this needs a safe space and time. This is the homework we all together have to do before we are able to really find long term solutions. We have to clean up our past and take the essence of what we learned as a basis to then build something fundamental new for human beings.


UBI creates a safe space in which we can say „no“ to the past and „yes“ to ourselves again. This can be a floor to rest, ease, relax and be honest that we „don’t really know“ how to go on.


But don’t make the mistake as all of us often did in the past, to resignation after saying „I don’t know“, and then stop moving anymore, being stuck. Let us move on with first imagining our future, our life, how we now want to live, how we now want to feel. No longer escaping, hiding from the past, but moving towards the unknown together with our imagination. Let us imagine until we feel this excitement again to take a new next step. Let us have the inner clarity and knowing that we can master this expansion together in a life supporting new way.


UBI is a tool that can help us in many different ways during the path. With money we all can create the space we need at the moment, during the movement, so that we feel stability in our bodies and emotional system to master the actions we have to take now. Some need space to relax for a while, some need some help in self-development, some need some space to treat their health issues in a new way, some need a safe space to move into a new country, to find a new job, some need a space to be creative. All together we can prepare us with the help of UBI to have a healthy basis to face the change in a conscious, responsible way as a participant, so that we really feel as a connected part of the whole.


How can we prepare us with starting now?
If you want to know more about UBI and how you can prepare yourself for a life with UBI, if it is hard for you to imagine a life with UBI and that this can be made possible for the people, if you have doubt about how it can be financed, you surely find some answers in this story that can become our new life story if we all take part in the creation.


I invite you to read my new book :-)


„The Vision behind Unconditional BasicIncome“
Joy Dakinisun
Published with www.tredition.de
Available beginning of March 2019
Enjoy!