Authenticity
There is so much around in the people about “authenticity”. We don’t want to be betrayed, we hate lies, we don’t want to being used and lied to by someone…Therefore we expect other people to be authentic. Then we think, we know exactly , who they are. They show us their true faces. We think so. Why do we expect this?
Because we are afraid of becoming a victim of other peoples behavior or we don’t want to do things for people and they are not thankful for it. But the real reason is, we want to protect us in controlling the outside world and the behavior of the people around us.
First question is: We expect “authenticity” from other people. What about our own authenticity?
Behind “authenticity” is the meaning of being real, being honest and in first place being honest to my self.
We always are “authentic” in the moment, even in the moment of saying “yes” when we would have felt better with saying a “no”. Maybe the disharmony we thought could follow after saying “no” frightened us. In this moment with this consciousness, we reached at this moment, we were authentic. We acted, behaved in the best way possible for us. But we can change everything and everything changes in ourself with one step into another experience and something new, we learned out of this experience. So our believesystem changes every day or not. We are surrounded with people who seem to learn nothing. Nothing changes in their life outside.
But unconsciously they develop, but they don’t consciously evolve.
So the difference in just living authentic or living real honest authenticity is being conscious aware of what is going on in yourself in this moment. You are aware of your fear. Then you can learn and change your feelings. Next time you choose to say “no”, no matter what happens, because your “feeling good” is important to you.
Otherwise authenticity is just an unconscious attitude and leads to chronical behavior, chronical unconscious “reacting” to the outside world.
Being consciously authentic means being aware of your feelings, or even watching yourself consciously in a moment where you are not aware of your feelings. Your true self has a silent distance to what is going outside of it. It’s like your guide, that is objectively watching you in your action, behavior, attitude, believe and gets these pieces together to see your whole picture. It then guides you out of the wisdom of learning from all this experience.
So you stop taking over responsibility for the feelings of other people. You are focusing on your own responsibility for your own feeling good.
If you change your life and behavior, so that others feel good, they will always need you, you will live for them and miss your own life. The others also will miss their life, because it is so comfortable to have you in their life, so that they don’t even realize, that it’s not their life.
So both sides betray themselves. But even in their process they are unconsciously authentic. They are not aware of that they have the power for change.
So you now are on a new conscious way. Trust others that they are able to find their own way, right place, right time for them. Focus on what makes you happy. We all are selfish in different scales. It’s natural, because human beings want to feel good. What matters to us is our own wellbeing. Even if we argue with saying, that our focus lays on making other people happy. Look deeper and you find that we all do this because afterwards, when we see the bright eyes and they leave us with a happy feeling inside of them, we feel good. So lets stop making a big story out of what is right or what is wrong. The most important thing in life is, that you are happy, satisfied, joyful and love life. With this energy you are a key to the happiness of everyone around you and you will show them ways to reach it without being dependent on you.
Love yourself. Be honest to yourself.
…..and if someone is mad at you because of your words, be clear about this: This someone is mad at you because you are not as this someone needs you to be, so that this someone can be happy.
But real authentic joy, satisfaction, love comes from the inside out. Joy, only based on outside condition, is gone if the condition changes.
So meditate, dance, sing, paint…to be joyfull and loving in a consciously authentic way without expecting anything from others.
Begin to live “with” the people around you, no longer “for” the people.
Living “for” the people around you also means you are a part of their powerplays, victim as well as offenders. Stop that just with being aware of when you feel powerless, ashamed, guilty, afraid, sad…just allow the feeling. Close your eyes, breath, and let it go, breath through the process, breath it out.
Don’t try to depress it, ignore it, push it away. It will manifest in your body. It wants to be ex-pressed so that you become free. Emotions always are bound to past less or less good experience. If you start to be aware of how it feels, go through the breathing process, not expressing it against others, trying to find reasons for it in the behavior of others against you. It will dissolve within the next 5 to 15 minutes. After that it will never be the same feeling in these situations and suddenly it will be gone.
Pure clear feeling will integrate into your being. After a while feelings will be just a sign for you, if what you are doing, where you are, with whom you are staying, is feeling good or less good to you.
Your clear awareness of your state of feeling through your senses allows you to make a clear decision for yourself in every situation in daily life. This is the path into authentic life.
Enjoy the path. Don’t struggle to arrive. You are always a perfect being on your unique path.
You are lived, supported and always in the right place with the right people.
Because we are afraid of becoming a victim of other peoples behavior or we don’t want to do things for people and they are not thankful for it. But the real reason is, we want to protect us in controlling the outside world and the behavior of the people around us.
First question is: We expect “authenticity” from other people. What about our own authenticity?
Behind “authenticity” is the meaning of being real, being honest and in first place being honest to my self.
We always are “authentic” in the moment, even in the moment of saying “yes” when we would have felt better with saying a “no”. Maybe the disharmony we thought could follow after saying “no” frightened us. In this moment with this consciousness, we reached at this moment, we were authentic. We acted, behaved in the best way possible for us. But we can change everything and everything changes in ourself with one step into another experience and something new, we learned out of this experience. So our believesystem changes every day or not. We are surrounded with people who seem to learn nothing. Nothing changes in their life outside.
But unconsciously they develop, but they don’t consciously evolve.
So the difference in just living authentic or living real honest authenticity is being conscious aware of what is going on in yourself in this moment. You are aware of your fear. Then you can learn and change your feelings. Next time you choose to say “no”, no matter what happens, because your “feeling good” is important to you.
Otherwise authenticity is just an unconscious attitude and leads to chronical behavior, chronical unconscious “reacting” to the outside world.
Being consciously authentic means being aware of your feelings, or even watching yourself consciously in a moment where you are not aware of your feelings. Your true self has a silent distance to what is going outside of it. It’s like your guide, that is objectively watching you in your action, behavior, attitude, believe and gets these pieces together to see your whole picture. It then guides you out of the wisdom of learning from all this experience.
So you stop taking over responsibility for the feelings of other people. You are focusing on your own responsibility for your own feeling good.
If you change your life and behavior, so that others feel good, they will always need you, you will live for them and miss your own life. The others also will miss their life, because it is so comfortable to have you in their life, so that they don’t even realize, that it’s not their life.
So both sides betray themselves. But even in their process they are unconsciously authentic. They are not aware of that they have the power for change.
So you now are on a new conscious way. Trust others that they are able to find their own way, right place, right time for them. Focus on what makes you happy. We all are selfish in different scales. It’s natural, because human beings want to feel good. What matters to us is our own wellbeing. Even if we argue with saying, that our focus lays on making other people happy. Look deeper and you find that we all do this because afterwards, when we see the bright eyes and they leave us with a happy feeling inside of them, we feel good. So lets stop making a big story out of what is right or what is wrong. The most important thing in life is, that you are happy, satisfied, joyful and love life. With this energy you are a key to the happiness of everyone around you and you will show them ways to reach it without being dependent on you.
Love yourself. Be honest to yourself.
…..and if someone is mad at you because of your words, be clear about this: This someone is mad at you because you are not as this someone needs you to be, so that this someone can be happy.
But real authentic joy, satisfaction, love comes from the inside out. Joy, only based on outside condition, is gone if the condition changes.
So meditate, dance, sing, paint…to be joyfull and loving in a consciously authentic way without expecting anything from others.
Begin to live “with” the people around you, no longer “for” the people.
Living “for” the people around you also means you are a part of their powerplays, victim as well as offenders. Stop that just with being aware of when you feel powerless, ashamed, guilty, afraid, sad…just allow the feeling. Close your eyes, breath, and let it go, breath through the process, breath it out.
Don’t try to depress it, ignore it, push it away. It will manifest in your body. It wants to be ex-pressed so that you become free. Emotions always are bound to past less or less good experience. If you start to be aware of how it feels, go through the breathing process, not expressing it against others, trying to find reasons for it in the behavior of others against you. It will dissolve within the next 5 to 15 minutes. After that it will never be the same feeling in these situations and suddenly it will be gone.
Pure clear feeling will integrate into your being. After a while feelings will be just a sign for you, if what you are doing, where you are, with whom you are staying, is feeling good or less good to you.
Your clear awareness of your state of feeling through your senses allows you to make a clear decision for yourself in every situation in daily life. This is the path into authentic life.
Enjoy the path. Don’t struggle to arrive. You are always a perfect being on your unique path.
You are lived, supported and always in the right place with the right people.
This cloud is the one and only unique cloud in this form, as you are unique in this world
